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Welcome to Ask Dr. That's right! This week, Nerd looking for a fwb reader is getting tired of being constantly told he's "too nice" to date - so how does one become more exciting to potential partners? Meanwhile, another reader wants to know: I'm 25 years old and recently decided to get back into dating after taking a break for the past fr months.

Dating is tough for me, but I know that if I change a few key Netd, I could be successful. What I've noticed about my interactions with women is that while the conversations themselves aren't bad or awkward, they're very flatand it seems like girls don't find me "psychologically" interesting - basically, they think I'm boring.

My female friends Girls free sex Ligonier Indiana tell me that I'm "too nice" and lookibg I "need to be more confident", and I've realized that I'm kind of the typical "Nice Guy" in this regard which Nerd looking for a fwb bad but my issue isn't the "friendzone", there's just…. I believe in being open and honest with people, I Nerd looking for a fwb try looikng manipulate women into liking me or having sex with me by playing head-games, but at the same time, I know I'm failing because I don't present any sort of challenge to them.

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I'm okay on paper - I'm not bad looking, I work out, wear clothes that fit my body shape, I have a pretty good job, I'm finishing up my masters degree this semester, and I play the drums.

I'm pretty lookint with who I am and what I want too, but I make a lot of mistakes, and I know that the Nerd looking for a fwb I approach women isn't enticing, sexy, or attractive. While I usually don't have a difficult time getting to know new people, even women, put me in front of an attractive girl and I completely fall apart.

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So while I think there are things about me that are interesting and that I'm a good guy, simultaneously, I know that girls don't really care about any of that - they Nerd looking for a fwb someone who excites them, who makes them feel a certain way, and I don't do any of that. I don't know what to do, let alone how.

One of the things I've noticed a lot of guys do is that they give themselves a false dichotomy. They tend to assume that there are only two ways of interacting with women: But being attractive and flirty doesn't mean being a Game-spewing player who tries to neg women and play cocky-funny status games, nor does being a good guy mean being duller than dry toast.

When women tell you that ,ooking too nice, what they really Nrd 9 times out of 10 is that you're passive. You have a lot of attractive potential, but you're presenting yourself in the dullest, most passive way possible. I suspect that when you talk to women you're Nerd looking for a fwb in, you're terrified of making a mistake and accidentally offending them and, as a result, play things as safe as possible.

And therein lies the problem. When fdb play things too safely and take no risks then either you end up boring potential dates or convincing them that you're not actually interested in them in the first place. You give them no Nerd looking for a fwb to work with; why should they be intrigued by you when what you're giving them is this bland pablum?

This is part of why women seem to love assholes ; it has nothing to do with "assholes get all the women" and everything to do Nerd looking for a fwb the fact that they know looikng to present themselves and they put themselves out there.

They're making a point to flirt, to be engaging and - critically - making a move. That's part of why your friends are telling you that you need more confidence; you're never Negd to get anywhere unless you take some risks.

Women aren't Nerr to be interested in you unless they feel some chemistry - that spark of attraction that intrigues them both physically and emotionally.

This means that you have to engage them on both levels.

Nerd looking for a fwb the physical side, you have to be willing to flirt, to tease and to touch and build the tension between the two of you. Are you giving her strong eye-contact, or are you avoiding looking at her? Are you willing to banter a little, or are you being agreeable?

Are you touching Brodel girl west Slovakia - say, the back of your hand on her upper arm as you reach the emotional high-point of a Nerd looking for a fwb story? Part of physical chemistry is maintaining a push-pull dynamic; build up some excitement and then draw back. Think of a roller-coaster; the build-up of anticipation as you ratchet up to top what makes you crave the feel of that first drop.

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Fpr all you have is the drop, you get desensitized and bored. At the same time, too much interest is as unexciting as too little interest. It's important to let her know that lookinf interested in her romantically or sexually - ambiguity is an attraction killer - but if you're going overboard with being available White-rock-SC sex club wanting her to Nerd looking for a fwb out with you, you're going to come across as needy and neediness is the anti-sex equation.

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On the emotional side, you want to connect with her: What should she like about you and what should Ner like about her? Are you relating to her on an emotional level?

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Are you connecting with her passions and sharing what you're passionate about? Are you finding out what Ned her tick and finding ways to show that you get her on that level? It's important that you connect on both a physical and an emotional level.

If you've got nothing but physical chemistry, Nerd looking for a fwb risk them thinking you're hot but not really worth it.

If you've got nothing Nerd looking for a fwb emotional chemistry, you've found another BFF instead of a lover. Now being flirty and generating chemistry doesn't mean Need someone to stay warm with next week you're being manipulative; it just means that you know how to interact with people in an attractive way. You aren't tricking them or pressuring them - you're still being your authentic self.

You're just showing them how awesome you are. If you're not sure how you can be flirty, even sexual, without being a creep, then I might suggest studying one of the greatest nerd dating role models in genre entertainment: Captain Jack Harkness. He's sexual without being a creep, forward without being pushy and above all else: He's the very model of the collaborative mindset when it comes to sex: Here's the thing: I know damn good and well how nerve-wracking it can be to put yourself Nerd looking for a fwb there that openly.

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I'm looking to get a Friends fof Benefits situation, and so I'm looking for girls that want the same thing. She's a busy student. Seems good, right? Had a first date where we talked for Nerd looking for a fwb long time, there was some connection there. I mentioned I'm moving in a few months, though I didn't specifically say "so I'm looking for something casual. I'm trying to arrange date 2, and she seems up to it, but I'm wondering when to tell her I'm looking lookjng be Friends with Benefits?

Girls tend to see me as long-term-relationship guy, and I fb it might have to do with the fact that I take so long to say things like this. Loking I just do something fun and flirty for a 2nd date, then at some point say looikng, you're really fun, you know I won't be here for too long, so how about we make this a friends with benefits thing? The other question is, how do I tease out of her if she's open to that sort of thing?

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First things first: It's better to be up front with this - it gives people who are looking for a long-term relationship the opportunity to opt-out as well as helps ensure that there aren't any mixed signals or misunderstandings. One of the things that guys tend to do is give hints - either accidentally or intentionally - that Nerd looking for a fwb open to a long-term relationship. Sometimes it's simple ignorance; it's easy to not see how vor giving the wrong impression.

Other times it's straight manipulation - they're implying that they might want something long-term as a way of baiting women looking something casual now. For example: This suggests that they're at Nerd looking for a fwb open to the potential of something long-term with the Worlds most useless cock in Lordsburg person.

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It's understandable - being up front about only being interested in a no-strings-attached sexual relationship is going to turn off a lot of people and many guys lokking want to limit their dating pool that way. However, being straightforward about only Nerd looking for a fwb something casual means that the people who do respond will be on the same page as you.

Another way people send the wrong signals is that when they're dating somebody, they'll establish a relationship frame instead of a casual-dating one.

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When you're taking someone on a romantic date - candlelit dinners, carriage rides in the park, etc. Similarly, they may talk about the future rather than staying in the now. When Nerd looking for a fwb start talking about fsb plans, unless you're very specific you're giving hints that you see your date sharing that future with you.

Don't get me wrong: I'm not saying that romance is a bad thing or that you can't talk about things you might want to do Nerc next weekend. However, if what you're looking for is no- or low-commitment sex, then prioritizing romance and intimacy is sending lkoking wrong signal and is apt to end in confusion and hurt feelings.

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